Mental health

Many people come to see me because they experience pain, usually physical pain. However this often affects or affected by mental health more than they realise.

Mind and body are not disconnected. Pain causes stress, just as much as stress causes the body to tighten and increase pain.

stress full life a man pushing a car up a hillPhysical pain is often the last resort for the body, after it has been sending other signs of dis-ease that you have not noticed or have suppressed. Whether you are dealing with physical or emotional pain.  I use both body / physical and mind approaches to help improve your condition and mental health and attitude.

Although I have trained to various levels in the following forms of mental health therapies and care techniques, I do not practice these as stand-alone therapies.

Body~Mind Coaching offers a seamless careful mix of  therapies

I have found a combination of body work / physical therapies / approaches,  to be much more effective than using each therapy on its own.  The combination of treatments used depends on the main problem which presents itself at each session as well as what you want to achieve.

Counselling, psychotherapy, IEMT and EMDR are usually considered for people who feel they have a problem such as depression, anxiety arising from life such as bereavement, relationship difficulties, domestic violence or the after effects of childhood sexual abuse.

My approach helps deal with such issues and addresses other areas before they become problematic. The latter are often seen as everyday issues which people think can’t change, but drain their energy and passion for life. These could be guilt, lack of confidence, exam nerves which are often considered ‘normal’ but really stop you enjoying your life and achieving what you really want.


Counselling is a talking therapy which allows you to express whatever is going on in your life. Often sharing a problem and how you feel about it, with someone who is empathetic and completely separate from you and the issue, (as opposed to a friend or relative – though this is also helpful) helps to get a better perspective on your situation.

The information shared is confidential, so there is no risk of anyone, such as work or friends, finding out about your issue(s), unless you choose to speak to them about it.  A counsellor does not offer a solution or answer to your problem however by asking questions the counsellor might help you shed light on how you can move forward.

From my experience of counselling, as a young adult, it was comforting to talk to someone.  I was new to Swindon and had no friends in the area at the time. Though talking to someone impartial and supportive helped give me some understanding and perspective, it did not  change how I felt, nor give me tools to deal with my situation. It did not fundamentally change my mental health.

Though I use counselling skills, my approach offers more suggestions, possible areas to explore than a session with a counsellor would.

I also use techniques like those of Elisabeth Kubler Ross. This is why I have not pursued the full counselling training and chose EMDR, and IEMT mixed with the other modalities listed here, as the main way I help people deal with upsetting situations and emotions.

Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR):

EMDR deals primarily with upsetting emotions.

The process used releases unwanted emotions permanently. When the process is finished you will feel completely differently about the event that triggered the upsetting emotion.

It deals with issues such as stress, anxiety, anger, depression, isolation, intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, nightmares, guilt and panic. Read more

Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT):

Works with eye movements like EMDR and can help with similar issues. However  the focus with IEMT is on dealing with how you learned to feel the way you do and educating you as to how you can change.

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP):

NLP is all about understanding how the words and language we use, in our everyday life, helps us or hinders us.

Understanding how our brain processes language and how others may process it differently, means we can learn to communicate more effectively. We can also change our self-talk and reduce self sabotage.

When we express ourselves differently, we can get our message across more effectively and get more of what we want. The latter is particularly helpful when bringing up children.

You might known that when you tell a child not to do something, they end up doing it! That is because of the way we phrased our message. Asking a child not to walk in the mud, for example, (and their brain goes… mud, what mud, where, what fun, mud!) rather than asking them to stay close to us and stay on the path, which draws their attention to the path and they don’t notice the mud.

Life Coaching:

Life Coaching uses tools and techniques from psychology, sociology, counselling, positive adult development and more.

Examples for some of those tools are Wheel of Life Coaching, NLP, Personal Development Planning.

The main difference between coaching and other areas, concerned with the human well-being, is that it is about what the client needs. A Life coach is more interested in actions you can take, rather than on identifying a past issue.

Clients can reasonably expect to gain confidence, insight, encouragement and inspiration. Professionals enlist coaches to accelerate their careers, getting help with things like making decisions and achieving self-awareness.

Coaches can provide honest, unfiltered feedback, which is hard to find. Coaching is a process of you helping yourself with a little guidance. You get support to turn your dreams into goals, your ideas into plans, and your thoughts into actions.

My coaching approach is more like that of a sports coach. I focussed on finding out what you want and where you would like to be which determines what you need. If you have an injury, my treatment programme will be different if you want to get back to gardening or train for a triathlon. I also help you understand what you can do to help yourself.

The Trager Approach and Mentastics:

Also known a psychophysical integration, it helps release unconscious holding patterns held in the body. When you become aware of the patterns, you are then better able to release them consciously.

Sessions are more than just a treatment. They are about self-discovery, finding ways to move more freely and do more with less effort. This is very helpful to deal with stress and regain energy. Read more.

As the name psychophysical integration implies, it’s a physical treatment on the body that affects your mental health.


  1. Little me says:

    16th August 2019 at 09:11

    Thank you for this page!!! I Need some kind of mental therapy for domestic violence and the ptsd, anxiety and depression and also dependency on a narcissistic personality disorder relationship which caused serious trauma bonds…now the fact is I actually KNOW all these things and know I’ve researched the topics to be armed with information and self empowerment…self help has begun to help but I’m finding the information and answers are giving me more to ‘think about’ and deal with and try to work through…I’ve read about NLP and EMDR and I think both may have the possibility to be successful with my own self…I didn’t think/believe that it was all able to be mushed together into a more rounded multi approach system…your site has allowed me to see that it is possible and there Are people who practice it…unfortunately I’m an nhs patient and all I’m being offered is standard counselling which I already know I’m set up to resist because I feel quite invaded with the approach..this article has given me a starting point to wave under my gp’s nose while I’m requesting the help and therapies I believe may work well for me in conjunction with each other…so thank you again for giving me some hope that it’s at Least possible and thought by medical professionals to be effective…I’m at the end of my rope and honestly trying so hard on my own to change my thinking and outlook and find some positivity and motivation for life and personal interactions but doing it all on my own isn’t effective at working it all out…I feel I’m giving myself more issues I didn’t have to begin with and EMDR isn’t something you can even do by yourself…I’ve been told that hypnotherapy would be good for PTSD but having someone adjust my wiring while I’m in such a vulnerable unknowing state scares me and I cannot figure out How hypnotherapy can stop you having flashbacks which cause physical reactions (embarrassingly so) so I don’t think that’s for me but your article has certainly given me something I Do think could be exactly the thing for me…
    In appreciation of information…

    • Julie Nicholls says:

      22nd August 2019 at 20:55

      Thank you for getting in touch. I am pleased to hear that this information is helpful for you.

      Information and talking therapies, such as counselling you mention, can only help so far, as they work with and on the rational part of the brain, rarely do they tap into what one feels in the heart and experiences in the body. There are some EMDR practitioners who work for the NHS so you may be able to get some help from you GP with that though generally they recommend CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) which may be a good starting point for you if you haven’t already gone down that route.

      A I mention in my blogs on why therapy doesn’t work and the follow on tips to find the right therapist for you, whatever therapy you are offered or decide to go for, the most important is that you feel comfortable with the therapist in question. The right therapist is as important, if not more, than the type of therapy they do. If you have reservations about them (and by the way, you don’t need to have a reason for it) then you won’t be able to be completely honest and relaxed which will be counter productive.

      If you don’t get any joy form the GP, then I would be very happy to help you. The first step is to have a taster session. This means you are able to see and feel if you like what I offer (combining EMDR,IEMT and other therapeutic modalities) and know whether it’s right for you. It would also mean I can assess whether what I do is suitable for you.
      Only then would we be able to discuss costs and what sort of programme might be appropriate.
      This can be done online and is offered for a donation to my chosen charity, Freedom Kit bags.
      Do get in touch if you would like to pursue this option.

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