Mental health

Many people come to see me because they experience pain, usually physical but this often affects mental health more than you might realise.

Mind and body are not disconnected and pain causes stress just as much as stress causes the body to tighten and increase pain.

Physical pain is often the last resort for the body after it has been sending other signs of dis-ease that have been ignored. Whether you are dealing with physical or emotional pain I will use both body / physical and mind approaches to help improve your condition as it is important for you to know how to relax to help you deal with any upsetting emotions.

Although I have trained to various levels in the following forms of mental health therapies and care techniques, I do not practice these as stand-alone therapies. Body~Mind Coaching offers a seamless careful mix of these therapies combined with body work / physical therapies / approaches, which I have found to be much more effective than using each therapy on its own. The combination of treatments used depends on the main problem which presents itself at each session and what you want to achieve.

Counselling, psychotherapy and EMDR are usually considered for people who feel they have a problem such as depression, anxiety arising from life such as bereavement, relationship difficulties, domestic violence or the after effects of childhood sexual abuse.

My approach helps deal with such issues and also addresses other areas before they become problematic. The latter are often seen as everyday issues that many people don’t even realise they can change but which drain your energy. These could be guilt, lack of confidence, exam nerves which are often considered ‘normal’ but can actually really stops you enjoying your life and achieving what you really want.

Counselling:

Counselling is a talking therapy which allows you to express whatever is going on in your life. Often sharing a problem and how you feel about it, with someone who is empathetic and completely separate from you and the issue, (as opposed to a friend or relative- though this is also helpful) helps to get a better perspective on your situation.

The information shared is confidential, so there is no risk of anyone, such as work or friends, finding out about your issue(s) unless you choose to speak to them about it.  A counsellor does not offer a solution or answer to your problem but by asking questions will help you shed light on how you might be able to move forward.

From my experience of counseling, as a young adult, it was comforting to talk to someone.  I was new to Swindon and had no friends in the area at the time. Though talking to someone impartial and supportive helped give me some understanding and perspective, it did not fundamentally change how I felt, nor give me tools to deal with my situation.

Though I use counselling skills, my approach offers more suggestions, possible areas to explore than a session with a counsellor would.

I also use techniques like those of Elisabeth Kubler Ross. This is why I have not pursued the full counselling training and chose EMDR, mixed with the other modalities listed here, as the main way I help people deal with upsetting situations and emotions.

Eye Movement Desensitistion and Reprocessing (EMDR):

EMDR deals primarily with upsetting emotions. The process used releases unwanted emotions permanently as when the process is finished you will feel completely differently about the event that triggered the upsetting emotion. It deals with issues such as stress, anxiety, anger, depression, isolation, intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, nightmares, guilt and panic. Read more

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP):

NLP is all about understanding how the words and language we use in our everyday life helps us or hinders us. Read more see blog

Understanding how our brain processes language and how others may process it differently, means we can learn to communicate more effectively. We can change our self-talk and reduce self sabotage as well as express ourselves differently so we can get our message across and get more of what we want. The latter is particularly helpful when bringing up children.

It is well known that if you tell a child not to do something, they end up doing it! That is because of the way we phrased our message, asking them to not walk in the mud for example (and their brain goes mud , what mud where, what fun, mud!) rather than asking them to stay close to us and stay on the path (which draws their attention to the path and they don’t notice the mud.

Life Coaching:

Life Coaching uses tools and techniques from psychology, sociology, counselling, positive adult development and more.

Examples for some of those tools are Wheel of Life Coaching, NLP, Personal Development Planning etc.

The main difference between coaching and other areas, concerned with the human well-being, is that it is about what the client needs. A Life coach is more interested in actions you can take and would lead you in that direction, rather than on identifying a past issue.

By and large, clients can reasonably expect to gain confidence, insight, encouragement and inspiration. Professionals enlist coaches to accelerate their careers, getting help with things like making decisions, cultivating a presence and achieving self-awareness.

Coaches can provide honest, unfiltered feedback, which is hard to find. Coaching is a process of you helping yourself with a little guidance. You get support to turn your dreams to goals, your ideas to plans, and your thoughts to actions.

My coaching approach is more like that of a sports coach. I focussed on finding out what you want, where you would like to be which will determine what you need. It is different if you have an injury and you want to get back to gardening or if you want to do a triathlon. Then I would help you understand what you can do to help yourself and deal with any issues that might be getting in the way of you achieving that.

The Trager Approach and Mentastics:

Also known a psychophysical integration it helps release unconscious holding patterns within the body. As you become aware of the patterns, you are then better able to release them consciously.

Sessions are more than just a treatment. They are about self-discovery, finding ways to move more freely, to do more with less effort. In this way regain energy and very helpful to deal with stress. Read more.
As the name psychophysical integration implies, it’s a physical treatment on the body that affects your mental health.